Jun 23

We’ve asked you to save the date … we’ve teased you with dripping details … and now we are announcing …

EVOLUTION OF THE REVOLUTION

Jay Wiseman

Jay Wiseman, renowned BDSM/kink author, speaker, teacher

A two-day event featuring JohnBaku and Jay Wiseman, as well as local and regional speakers.

Where? The Hard Rock Hotel & Casino in Albuquerque, New Mexico

When? Friday, Sept 17-Saturday, Sept 18, 2010

What? Two days of social networking, discussion, celebration, learning, and play, with a focus on examining how the kink/BDSM/Leather/fetish revolution has evolved over the last 30+ years.

Cost? $50/person for full event until August 18, 2010
$60/person for full event after August 18, 2010 or at the door

A la carte: $20/person for Cocktail Party until August 18, 2010
$25/person for Cocktail Party after August 18, 2010 or at the door
$25/person for Play Party until August 18, 2010
$30/person for Play Party after August 18, 2010 or at the door

What does the full event charge cover?

Friday Night, 7-10pm: Lavishly Catered Cocktail Party with cash bar

Saturday morning: Panel discussion with Jay Wiseman and John Baku

Panel discussion with Stan of AEL, Steve Wearden of the Leather Wolves, Mim Chapman of the NM Polyamory Network, and ShelbySue of Las Cruces Coffee & Kink

Breakfast included Saturday morning

JohnBaku, FetLife

JohnBaku, creator of FetLife

Workshops in the afternoon, presented by JohnBaku, Jay Wiseman, and more … Stay tuned for more specific details.

Coffee/tea breaks included Saturday afternoon

Play Party in private ballroom on the Golf Course … gorgeous balcony … separate parking lot … serious privacy for serious play!

Buffet of snacks included in Play Party

Vendor Fair available Friday night and all day Saturday.

AMAZING raffles … including an opportunity to win 1-hour of Rope Bondage private instruction for you & your partner with Jay Wiseman!

And on Sunday night, we encourage you to attend the Rio Grande Leather Contest.

Want to book a room and make it a weekend away from home? Call Pauline at the Hard Rock at (505) 244-8262 and use the code “NMF0910.” We have a block with the rate of $139/night. (The typical weekend rate is $179+.) The Hard Rock will NOT charge you extra to have 3-4 people in a room! $139 applies to single, double, triple, or quadruple occupancy. The rate of $139 is valid only until August 18, 2010. Please book quickly! Please note: because we have a group code, you must book by phone, not on-line.

Oh! I can’t wait! How do I buy a ticket for this amazing event?

See any board member at any New Mexico FetLifer event or contact any board member to meet up and secure your spot with cold hard cash! Live outside of New Mexico? Can’t get with a board member? Contact any board member to set up payment. Visit New Mexico FetLifers at www.fetlife.com!

Want to use a credit card? Please use PayPal. For credit cards, a service fee of $1 applies to purchasing the a la carte Cocktail Party; $2 applies to the Play Party; and a $3 service fee applies to purchasing the Full Event. (We think you want the full event … really, would you want to miss a minute of this unforgettable weekend?)

Evolution of the Revolution

Over a dozen vendors will join us … including IMsBB 2010 Jayson Daboi, MrZia, Self Serve, HottBonds …HottBonds, BDSM, bondage, fetish clothingQuestions? Comments? Please  message me, Sera privately …Please feel welcome to repost widely!

Dec 07

I just sat on it–I think he was happy to see me. I had on a short skirt and a long jacket. Panties? That’s between Santa, me, and the elves.

Really, I just picked my top three gift choices from FetLife’s Sit on Santa’s Lap Giveaway. If you haven’t done this already, you’re missing out.

My first choice? A fucking machine. If I win, I’ll post pics of me and my new toy–after I’ve given it a thorough workout (or it me, mmh?) of course.

What’s your first choice? If you could pick for me, would you select anything other than the fucking machine? Now really, think seriously: me, naked. Ass, red. Fucking machine, pink and whirring. Me, hair down, screaming. Screeching. Begging. Panting.

So yeah, is there anything else you’d pick for me to win from FetLife for being such a naughty girl this year?

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Oct 27
date: Saturday, November 14, 2009
time: 01:00 PM to 04:00 PM
where: Spring River Park
address: 1306 E. College Blvd, Roswell New Mexico  map
cost: Free, but bring something for the Potluck/BBQ
dress code: Public attire. We don’t want to scare the natives or aliens.

 

Description

Road trip! Come take your chance at alien abduction at November’s NM FetLife social. The New Mexico FetLifers are pleased to announce our FIRST (of hopefully many) road trip!

We are having a Potluck/BBQ and get-together in sunny Roswell, NM. A great opportunity to meet kinksters from the Southeastern part of the state. Consider this a pre-Thanksgiving Spanksgiving.

We have a great location for this event, the Spring River Park and Zoo. Bring your lawn chairs as while there are tables and a shelter, seating is at a premium.

Economics and other difficulties preclude hiring a bus for the event. If you have extra room in your vehicle, please make it available for those that don’t have transportation. This event is part of our community outreach program. While a play-party is not scheduled, there is nothing to prevent making new friends and arranging something on your own.

It is about a three hour drive from Albuquerque. Let’s make this a success so we can consider other road trips!

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Sep 24

Your kink community will help you build it.

This time last year, I was talking about starting a group on FetLife for people in New Mexico. The site was 10 months old, and so far as I could tell, nothing NM-specific was present. I was spending many an evening wandering through the site, thinking, This is it, this guy has done it. By “it,” I mean the next big thing in kink. The site that would tower over the others. The virtual place that would allow for serious organizing, serious networking, purposeful growth.

Finally, I did my “it,” and I started the New Mexico FetLifers group. A few months later, in February, with 56 members and not quite 200 people in New Mexico on FetLife total, I set a date for a “Meet n Greet.” I then personally emailed every person in NM who had not joined the group and invited them to do so, and to attend the event. 109 people showed up that night.

Now, over 1,000 New Mexico kinksters fill FetLife’s halls. Our events consistently see 40-100 attendees, depending on the type of event we offer. Our next event is Saturday, where I expect 70-80 guests to attend our “Submissives Speak!” Panel and our play party.

Since that Meet n Greet on February 28th, I’ve dreamt of getting FetLife creator himself, Mr. JohnBaku, to New Mexico. What a coup that would be for us! We are a small community perhaps in numbers, compared to large urban cities, but in the last 8 months I’ve learned that we are united–perhaps more strongly united than an outsider might suspect. As a whole, the NM kink community is among the most welcoming I’ve known.

And, we are raising the money to bring JohnBaku here. And, he is willing and happy to come. We are over half-way to our goal, with a year to plan a smashing event. I say “we” because though I whispered the idea, though I decided we would work toward it, the hundreds of people in the NM kink community are making it happen. They are donating money, running errands, responding to email queries, helping me organize …

This time next year, I’ll (fingers crossed) be posting about JohnBaku’s visit. I’ll be swimming in pictures, community, grace, laughter, play, and joy. I can’t wait to share all the details, gory and delightful.

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Jun 19

Next Saturday, the 27th of June, Nancy Ava Miller of PEP, People Exchanging Power, is inviting the New Mexico FetLifers to her beautiful mountain home for a party. We’ll be able to hang out, play (!), swim in her luxurious indoor pool, and catch up–all while toting our favorite toys and dressed however we like.

Since my trip to DomCon with Kara, I’ve had little time to breathe. I’ve been working more, both in the PEP office and doing some calls during the day. Being back on the phones has been a blast–I figured my old favorites would call me again, and several have. I didn’t expect to hear from anyone new, though, and last week I had the pleasure of speaking with two new-to-me callers. One in particular told me he’d seen me off and on on the PEP Web site and just never managed to call. With my limited return, he figured his moment was now. In that case, I have to say “lucky me,” because he was into some of my favorite things–namely, anal play. He had toys available, and frankly, my forte is in developing a story, a fantasy, without directing a caller on how to play with his toys. That’s not to say I can’t do that type of direction, only that my strength is in creating a scene from scratch, using only our minds. He was brilliant at following my loose and infrequent directions while going into fantasy-land with me–with me at the foot of his bed … I’m sure your imagination can fill in at least a few of those kinky details.

With all the new work, little Sera needs a night to put on some sexy clothes and chill with her fellow kinksters.

Tomorrow, I’ll be attending an organizational meeting of the New Mexico Leather League. I’m excited to meet some people I know in name only, and others I may not have ever met. The League is putting on a hot event in July, “Kinky Karnival: Filth of July.” I’ll be running the spanking booth, doling out red and sore bottoms to deserving miscreants. The meeting tomorrow will focus on planning this event, and I’m hoping I can use my PR skills to help pimp the hell out of this–plus, it’s a benefit to help our Leather Title Holders manage travel costs. I’ve always secretly wished I were independently wealthy, so that I could do event planning for charity benefits. Kinky Karnival fits right into my paradigm.

Come to the FetLifers Party! Come to Kinky Karnival! Come Play!

Come to the FetLifers Party! Come to Kinky Karnival! Come Play!

$pread Magazine just sent out its call for submissions for the next issue. They’re asking for thoughts on being a sex worker and parent. I want to write something for this–something brilliant and revolutionary and thoughtful!–but I must admit, it’s a scary proposition. I’m still so unsure of how the two parts of my life fit together. A funny related moment from tonight, though–please indulge me for a minute: my daughter was finishing her evening snack and as I wiped her face of smeared applesauce, she screeched, of course. CNN was on in the background, and I whispered, “Ssh, Azar Nafisi is speaking.” (I’m half-Iranian.) I’m happy to say my baby quieted right down. I’m also cognizant enough to know the whisper calmed her, not the topic. Still, I’m hopeful that all my messages of what we should listen to will seep in. I proudly wear my “Decriminalize Prostitution” SWOP tank top around my baby, and one day (should the tank top survive long enough), she’ll ask me what it’s all about.

So, life feels lately like: edit, calls, write, write porn (for PEP), take care of family, sleep, pray for a quiet moment for coffee before baby wakes up. I’ve had 2-3 quiet mornings in the last two weeks. It is enough, enough to keep me going, marching my way toward next weekend’s hot and fabulous party.

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May 02

This is not your mother’s kink event!

Sunday, May 17th, 4pm-9pm

at the PEP Office in Albuquerque

Please bring yummy food or drink to share. (No alcohol please.)

I’m so thrilled to announce that we are having a branding demo and talk with a highly respected branding artist, Noah Babcock of Evolution.

Noah will be available to talk about any questions you may have related to piercing, branding, and body modification. He will be doing a branding demo on our very own Brat_toy–and we are not talking about a little brand. This is not, ahem, your mother’s kink event. Noah is doing a full-scale intricate brand on Brat_toy’s back.

The branding itself could take 2-4 hours. Of course, I do not expect everyone to sit quietly and watch! As always, please expect a relaxed atmosphere where you are welcome to come and go. We’ll have our demo set up in one room, and have the main area open for socializing. I expect many of us will peek in, maybe talk a bit, and then grab another piece of cake and chit-chat with new and old friends.

Please do send me any questions you might have for Noah. A few of you have already messaged me about this, based on my previous posts. Everyone else, let us know if there are specific areas you’d like Noah to discuss.

This event will be held on a Sunday to accomodate various schedules. Please note that we will not have an event on the 4th Saturday of May. I considered it … but this is such a large-scale event that I decided to stick with this one event as our get-together for May.

After our event, Noah will graciously offer 20% off to New Mexico FetLifers for branding. Evolution will probably send some coupons over to us, too, for piercing. I don’t know all the details on this yet, but I wanted to pass on the good discount news.

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Apr 29

This Saturday marked the third New Mexico FetLifers event. We held “Pimp My Profile,” and attendees were invited to bring hot clothes and toys and take pictures with which to update their FetLife profiles. About 45 people came and damn! were they ready!

I strongly suggest you look through the profiles of people in New Mexico FetLifers.  You might want to have a glass of wine nearby, and be prepared to be impressed by sexy and unique poses, gripping BDSM images, and amazing personal erotica.

We took some vanilla photos too. Here’s one of me and our delightful Princess Frida:

Sexy Bitches Unite!

Sexy Bitches Unite!

I am constantly amazed by the energy and generosity of this group of people. People bring great food, compliments, donations to keep the group going, and a myriad of personalities. How fortunate we are to have found each other through FetLife!

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Mar 31

In April, we’ll be doing a workshop-style event I’m affectionately terming “Pimp My Profile.” Do you want to write a personal ad on your profile, but need some feedback to best express yourself? Do you want to beef up your “About” section, and would love to bounce ideas around? Do you want fresh, hot pics of you in your fetish clothes, with your favorite toys, or with friends and/or playmates? Do you need to stay relatively anonymous, but want to have something other than a question mark as your image–and perhaps want to take pictures of a body part: your boot, your hand holding a flogger, your figure bent over? Come on over and we’ll work on it!

Details:

When? Saturday, April 25th, 430-9pm

Where?  the PEP Office in Albuquerque

What? Please bring ideas, clothes, toys; cameras, discs, writing pads, and pens. If you don’t have a camera but want pics, I’m sure we have many willing photographers. If you are coming for photos, please do bring a disc to save those images on. We’ll be able to use a computer or two to ensure those discs are created before you leave. If you want to bring a laptop to save your images on, you’re welcome to; we won’t, though, have on-line access via wireless. So, we’ll have to race home and upload :) .

Please also, as usual, bring food or drink to share. Photo shoots make people hungry! So does thinking of what to write about ourselves!

I’d love for those planning to attend who might have skills in the writing or photography or dress-up department to post here in the thread and let others know that such skills will be present. I, for example, am a book editor by trade, and will be happy to assist anyone with polishing their prose.

If you don’t want to pimp your profile, please do still feel welcome to come on over and hang out. Socialize, network, eat, and admire poses :) . Give input if you feel comfortable or if you have a skill to share.

Wanna come? Have questions? Leave me a note. Let’s talk.

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Mar 12

My burgeoning and growing group has become my second child. I know I won’t be able to keep up that kind of pace, ad infinitum, and eventually we’ll have to think about having a board of leaders. Or, we’ll at least need three or four of us sharing responsibility. There are so many events I want to put on.

Soon, I want to do a “Buff Your Profile” workshop. We can amass pads of paper, pens, and cameras. Members can help each other take fresh, hot pictures, write personal ads, give more compelling details about themselves … And for members who aren’t as adept with the computer, we can provide direct help to get new pics uploaded.

And sometime soon I want to put on a  Dom/sub mixer. Switches? We (myself included) can pick a side for that night. We can seek play partners, romantic partners, or mentorship relationships. Everyone will be tagged by role, so no guessing, no winking, no hoping for a clue.

I’ve also talked to a local body modification artist about doing a workshop/demo/talk. Building relationships with local businesses that might be kink-friendly is a large goal of mine.

I wish those business cards had come in the mail by now.

On the 21st, I’m going to a play party that’s during Spring Pandemonium, a big leather event, hosted by the New Mexico Leather League and the Leather Wolves. It’ll be my first local play party. I’m hoping to connect with more people who might want to work together to put on big events, like a Dom/sub party.

If only there were 28 hours in a day.

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Jan 31
Kicking Back My Pedicure

Kicking Back My Pedicure

First, have you joined FetLife? If not, do it now. Stop reading and go to: www.fetlife.com

Now, I want to promote my on-line group, New Mexico FetLifers, especially because we are meeting at the end of February! I have long wanted to give back to my kink community by providing a space, a haven, a comfy spot for others. Kindly, Nancy Ava Miller of PEP (www.peplove.com) is giving us the literal space, donating her office building for our meetings–and I hope there will be many meetings.

I believe that our community is full of people like me: we have figured out how to be open about our kink and might even have a current partner, or we have had partners and are currently single. We work, we play with our kids, we take out our trash every Thursday … what we don’t have is a solid community in which we can talk freely about the intricacies of our relationships. I am hoping this group will provide just that. I want us to do all the usual fun things (play parties and cool guest speakers and workshops, of course), and I also want us to be able to have a new list of friends, compatriots, whom we can call to, say, walk the dog together–and dish about our evolving D/s relationship. Our latest playdate. Our new toy.

To say I’m excited would be an understatement. I can’t wait to open the door at 430pm on February 28th and see who walks in.

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